I am back I have been living my life. The living situation has not changed however I have proof that she has been having an affair and I know the affair started well before the bomb drop. Tonight I am going to confront her in a calm and level headed manner. I have suspected the affair for a while and I apologize for not divulging this earlier.
Obviously because I have suspected this i am not shocked. I have done so much thinking and I do know that if I do not approach the subject in a calm and controlled manner she will get defensive. I suspect she will become very defensive. Especially if I become angry. I know yelling and screaming will not help. I will provide the proof to her after what I expect will be another denial.
I will do my best to keep keep the conversation cordial and calm. If I feel I am about to get angry I will pause, ask her to excuse me for a bit and I will request she does the same.
I must ease into the conversation, however when I am done speaking she has to make a choice immediately. We share ownership of the house and since she wants to end the marriage, I will suggest she move out immediately. I do not want the marriage to end, even after this realization. My love for her is unconditional
I do not want her to go. Do I give her a choice. The choice is 1) She leaves asap (I will not live under the same roof if she plans to continue the affair., 2) She breaks off the affair, together we wright the letter, I deliver it, I watch her block his number, emails and any other social media accounts. She must stop all contact. I will also require full transparency going forward. She must give me access to her email passwords as well and in return I will do the same.
Please I hope I can get some guidance because I have my reasons for having the discussion tonight
Don't count the days, make the days count. Mohammad Ali
