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Stop using PTSD as a reason for anything IMO. I read where it has caused your relationship problems but not where you are getting treatment, or explained the trauma. When my sitch started, I was using crappy life events to explain and justify and cope with all the pain of my sitch. I see a lot of people do that, so it's relatively normal and I don't hate you for it or anything, but I do see some strength in your post so I think you need to bring that part of you out more.

I can't even touch her without her shrugging my hand off. She won't even look at me.

OK, so this clearly isn't working so don't do this anymore. It's making her feel the pressure.

I have a gut feeling there maybe an EA - but I don't want to believe it. She takes her phone EVERYWHERE.

99% of them do. Just the way it is. And every LBS (left behind spouse) thinks their spouse is the 1%.

[quote[I try not to let it bother me but it does.[/quote]Focus on this attitude, for everything she does. Michele explains her stop sign technique to stop negative thoughts from flowing freely. I use it a lot. But really, you can't let what others do affect you.

I don't know what to do. I tried to GAL but my mind just keeps coming back to her. I exercise about 5 times a week but my mind keeps racing back to her. I'm trying to reach a point where when she leaves next month, that I'll be okay knowing that I tried to work this out. But also need to work on myself and mainly my relationship with my daughter.

You answered your own question there, good going! You know what to do. If you remember the last resort technique from the book, just do that. Stop pursuing, GAL, wait and see. Don't be home when she is home. Take a change of clothes and go out to eat, walk through town, get a drink or two, see a play, take a cooking/dancing/whatever class, stay out until it's almost bedtime. These type of activities helped me and my sitch drastically. Walking downstairs to "her area" and asking her who she's talking to is working against you. Do you see the difference between the two?