Man i did a pretty bad job today. She totally rattled me. Like she saw me coming. I stayed cheerful, but it was clear i was avoiding her. I reread Sandi's rules. Number 19, show her your someone to hang around. Really hard when you're to be sparse on the talk and avoiding. Always another day. Think of her as a good housemate I guess.
But glad GAL worked out today. Lifted my mood. Got another one later in the week, can't wait.
I am not sure why LBSs are so blind to nuance. Not starting conversations, not being around her all the time, and in general "avoiding her" (though I think that is a false characterization of what we advocate) doesn't mean you aren't "hanging" around. Not hanging around is kicking her out of the house or moving out yourself. Filing for D, and moving on completely. As in that you give-up at the first sign of marital problems. Leaving for good is not the same as giving her the time and space that SHE ASKED FOR.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
