Gomez, you are talking too much and doing too little. WWs respond to action, not words. Let me give you an example.
In my sitch I kept telling my W that we couldn't, and that I wouldn't, do a quickie divorce. She was deluded into believing that despite having a minor child, we could do a $400 online D, and have it done quickly and painlessly. I told her that couldn't happen. She ignored me. Until I spoke to a lawyer, and suddenly her easy-peazy lemon squeezee divorce delusion was shattered.
So don't say any of that to her. Stop spending time with her. Don't tell her she is free to do whatever she wants, just stop keeping tabs on her. Don't tell her that you want to sell the house ASAP, contact a realtor and get the ball rolling on selling the house! See the difference.
Gomez, the problem is you think you are going to go on the above diatribe with the hope she will go "OH NO! That's not what I want! I will stop messaging guys. And I will recommit to the marriage. Please give me another chance!"
Those expectations will kill you because likely she'll say "Ok." And keep right on doing what she is doing.
ACTION. Not words.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
