(((Kirsty))). Finding out about the OW really, really hurts... I know. But...at least you know what you are dealing with now. Nothing you can say or do will bring him back to you right now. He is fully under the spell of all of those infatuation hormones and thinks he is doing the right thing. As others have advised... now is the time for you to pick yourself up and double down on GAL activities and the LRT... not to get him back necessarily...but to get you back and to show your kids what a strong, high value woman does in a situation like this. Detach, detach, detach... I know how hard it is but there really is no other way. Do the work you need to do. You will be very glad you did in the end...whether you rebuild marriage 2.0 or D. My mantra throughout my entire sitch...and I still repeat it to myself sometimes when I start to entertain fantasies of my STBXH getting hit by the karma bus... choose better not bitter. (((HUGS)))
