Sorry you are here. But you are in the right place. I would read DR again. I think you read it too fast. Because asking her who she is video chatting with is not part of DBing. Those are behaviors you need to drop.
I can almost guarantee you an EA. And I would argue that it is probably already a PA. Women do not need their own place to work on the marriage, or find themselves. They need their own place to sleep with other people.
But right now your concern is to focus on YOURSELF. GAL.....no excuses, just do it. Detach. This is so important, you have to remove your emotions from her craziness. You also need to 180 on the bad behavior from the past...for YOU, not her.
You also need to talk to a lawyer. If she is already drawing up divorce papers you need legal advice. Divorce is a legal process, and you need a lawyer for that. Do not let her try to do a "let's keep lawyers out of this" that so many WWs pull. You have to protect yourself. Schedule free consultations with lawyers. I called an ADAM lawyer in my sitch, and the reality of the process helped me, and scared my WW.
Feel free to bounce questions off of us. Most of us have been there. Read other people's sitches, you can learn a lot be reading what other people are going through, and the advice they are receiving.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
