Its a fair point I suppose. My logic was as recently as a month ago, she said she wanted to try again. Since then, I've tried to detach but I still asked and expected her to tell me if she was in contact with any of the OM. I guess now I'm trying to say I'm done worrying about what you do and who with. I suppose the alternative is JFDI with my reasoning (if she questions why I'm behaving so differently than before she left (when I wanted to spend time with her) is I'm looking after myself. I just thought the words above made it clear I'm onto her little game and I'm done with her disrespect- its stating my boundaries clearly and why they are there as opposed to her just assuming they have appeared and not knowing why.
Best for me? I'd still like the M to work, but I see that as a long way off and a sea-change needed from her for that to happen. So, the realistic best for me is look after myself and sons and move on.
