You don't have to just high-five yourself (although I approve whole-heartedly). I'll internet-high-five you!
You're doing awesome, Living.
I'm glad you're letting him go across country and you're being clear that you are not just waiting for him. I had to let my spouse move too. I had to let go and move on. No matter what your decisions are, I will say that it gets easier when there are no daily reminders of what is/isn't in your life.
You get to decide now on the D. Your H said he doesn't want one right now and that's his stance. What's yours?
Begging for sex? Eww. Sorry, don't intend to be mean to your H. That's something only you get to do But from my perspective, no that's not attractive.
I'm sure there are ups and downs you didn't highlight here, and I just want to acknowledge that you're likely feeling them and that we understand. But this is a great update, and I'm so glad you're feeling independent and strong.
What else aside from work and financial independence is on the horizon for you? Anything new and exciting you get to explore?
But from my perspective, no that's not attractive. 