if you can get out , that may be best for the kids they may get emotional and expect them to be upset for a time around this
keep all comments to them nuetral about him if you can and remind them you are here and its not their fault I told mine as time went on..their dad I thought was in a crises and we cant fix it
Surprisingly my kids let go after a few months
They were 5 and 11...The 5 year old let go easier my 11 year old had more of a struggle so I sat with her every night when she was going to sleep and listened while she talked/cried/around his being gone
I changed the lock after a few months sometimes he came to our home and took papers /items ...ect..while I wasnt there- He did not want me to lock him out
I would consider changing the locks and set limits as he no longer lives there and they still want access to the family home.. maybe leave a spare key with a trusted friend or neighbor if he needs access
Remember you will also need extra support and good self care
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