Midlife wife crisis8

[Rose888]

To answer your question, no, you should not yell at your daughter.

Are you in IC? You need counseling to help you process your feelings about your daughter. I know it’s hurtful, but you need to be the grownup in your relationship with her, and that means doing the right thing even if you are hurt. The comparison to your son, the blaming her (at least in part) for the divorce are not good, and I am sure she senses that.

Since you can anticipate that situations like this will arise, I would prepare by arranging for a babysitter for her the next time. You don’t want her dictating what you and S get to do, but it’s also unproductive to try to force her to go.