Midlife wife crisis8

[Wolfman]

I have a question for everyone and I am so torn. We did a family counseling session a week ago. One of the things that came up in the session is how afraid my d is when I raise my voice at her when she is not listening. That I really scare her when I do that. The counselor asked for me not to raise my voice like that but to sleep to her when she is not listening or behaving. And to let my d know if she doesn’t listen there will be consequences. So 2 days ago I was going to take my kids to an outside movie. You bring chairs and blankets and food. When I told my s and d we were going my s said ok let’s go my d said she wasn’t going. Now she is only 12 and I would have normally left her alone but the place was far and the movie was 2 hours. So she would have been alone for about 4-5 hours. She kept saying she wasn’t going I can’t make her go. This carried on, I had to take her cell phone away. Then my w got involved and started screaming at her that she has to go with me. Then my w said aren’t you going to yell at her, I said the therapist doesn’t want me yelling at her anymore. So she got annoyed because I was just trying to talk to my d.
So what do I do? Go against the therapist who says I shouldn’t be yelling at my d or yell at my d to get her to listen. Life should not be this hard. I am so emotionally drained. Like going through d is not hard enough now I have to deal with and who never wants to be with me. I’m tired of people telling me that she is just a kid, that it’s hard for her, she will be emotional. That doesn’t make what she is doing less hurtful. I know many of you won’t believe this but my d is a big contributing factor to my d. Because after that whole incident who was my w mad at, yep me. My s is so good and understanding. This is a big reason I go into these bad depression holes. I’m losing my house, my d wants no part of me, my w is d me. Everything and everyone I loved is rejecting me or gone. Except my s. If it wasn’t for him I would be much worse off.