Thanks again Sandi. Your scenario sounds very very similar to mine. My W was always straight as an arrow and I’d stake my life she never did anything like this when we were happy. She always said if I cheated on her I was cheating on the boys too. She thought people who had affairs were scum. But things haven’t been right for years now and very similar to you she admitted it was the ego boost, the flattery, the buzz, the fix. She said at first she wouldn’t send him any pics but once she’d done one it became easier and they became more graphic.
She has admitted she fancies him but knows he is a POS and there is no long term there. She’s even said many times to me, friends and family that she can see us getting back together in the future. WTF???? Maybe she just wants to have some fun, some meaningless sex and then come back to me when she’s done. I’ve said it won’t happen.
Everything you have said rings true with her. The depression, the lack of energy and drive. I think the guy is a player and probably only wanted some guilt free no strings sex and deep down she thinks the same (at least that’s what she said, don’t know if she truly believes that).
Any advice how I deal with the thoughts she may be with him whilst I am away with the boys fishing? Just the thought of it makes me feel sick.
