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[DnJ]

Good Morning Tad

How are you? And how is the wee Grandkid?

...when I say over emotional, I mean seriously over emotional or hyper emotional. It's stuff that doesn't make sense.

It’s stuff that doesn’t make any sense. Right on the money. Emotions are irrational. Some follow rational thoughts and others do not.

Emotions come from our subconscious, well beyond the reach of the our conscious mind. We can only influence emotions, not control. Acceptance and understanding.

If my feelings towards innocent things are feelings that have been stirred up, shouldn't they go away eventually? I mean, is it always going to be like this? They seem to intensify over time.

All feelings go away, if not reinforced or fed.

Most emotions are fed subconsciously. To alter that feedback takes a concerted effort from the conscious mind, your thoughts. Or in time, as you accept whatever is “on your mind or heart”, the feeling fade. Now, fade may be a bit misnamed, we also get used to feelings so they seem to fade or lessen. The intensity of a feeling may lower and yet it becomes more deep or real - a belief.

So, is it always going to be like this? No, nothing remains static. Life is change and we are all heading somewhere. Enjoy the journey and embrace those feelings. Acceptance and understanding.

Your examples of emotional responses: feeling bad for the crabs, shouting at the fishermen to ensure they clean up, and physically sick to seeing on TV the animals getting eaten by other animals. It’s ok. Perfectly normal.

The only one of these you can directly control is you shouting at the fishermen, and that is only for a part of it. You feel something, you need not act on it, you choose to shout. I am guessing you are not wanting to become an in your face environmental activist , so you might want to nip this one.

However something is stirring inside you. Grandkids and mid life usher in a life transition - don’t worry no where near a crisis level. Just a transition to your golden years and the life outlook that it brings. Peace or despair, better or bitter, satisfaction or regret. This will stir up a lot of irrational fears and feelings.

I want to pass on a second outlook to fear and uncoupling it. Fear is a parasite, feeding on that irrational connection. Uncouple and let it wither. You can also purposefully overfeed it.

Consider afraid of the dark. It is not the absence of photons that scares a person. Is it what might be lurking in the dark? Even though it wasn’t there before. No. It is the hurt, pain, or death that might come from something within the dark attacking you. Irrational. So one uncouples that and let’s the feeling wither.

At the same time over feed that fear of the dark.

Go out and look at the stars. Marvel at the glorious universe and creation.

Listen to the wonderful sounds and the depth they have when vision is absent.

This feeds that fear something good and enjoyable. Dark gets coupled to stargazing and enjoying nature in the wisps of silvery starlight - for example.

Hope you are doing well.

DnJ