I am so sorry that you were hit right between the eyes yesterday. A lot of the MLCers do this surprise attack because they do not want to see us or hear what we have to say.

So, now that you've been served the papers, it's time to get all of your ducks in a row, even though this is not what you wanted. I would find a good lawyer and see what he/she has to say and go from there. Do not attempt to discuss the papers w/her at this time...allow your lawyer to handle the dirty work. If she attempts to discuss things w/you, do not make any promises of what you will or will not do...this is now a business deal that has gone completely south. You will need to put your business hat on and look at this as a business deal and leave your heart at the door when discussing the splitting of financial assets, etc.

Again, I am sorry, but not at all surprised at how she's handled the situation. We have seen quite a few of this surprise attacks over the years.

Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.