I know Sandi talks alot about detachment strategies and Steve talks alot about alpha male strategies for WW who are actively in an EA or PA. For a WW who has bluntly said it's over and I'm single I'm wondering how hard of an approach to take. I have no evidence of anything and sure if I look, anxiety could suggest anything. Let's assume no.
I talk about ramping things up and think if she's my roommate (which is the logical conclusion since shes single in her eyes) then I should:
Minimise contact with inlaws (hard! I'll organise GAL so they conflict) Dont do her laundry Always do family things Book lots of GAL time away Don't initiate conversations Minimal phone contact and sms are short Minimal time together watching tv (i feel she's lonely and when in the mood she asks) Don't ask about her nights out even if she insists they are with her gay friend All bad behaviour is promptly addressed All complaining is validated, but nothing more No compliments, no initiating physical contact
Right now things are stable. And at the risk of sounding sexist, surprising since she is on her period (she initiates most conflict during this time of month).
