As for the house,

Figure out your financial status first-
You definitely dont want his name on the house, and you want to make sure if you buy it-it will be only yours-

The MLCer is NOT trustworthy and he will try to take from you and his kids
They get totally crazy

So my best suggestions:

Get grounded
Pray to let go in thought and find peace
Let him go where ever he will be living--it doesnt matter
dont confront him about OW
Seek a lawyer asap

with him gone the house will be quiet

Be there for the kids and to to be nuetral with any talk around H to kids
Dont put him down, but be honest
Dad is having a tough time...It will be best for him to leave if he feels he has to
Hopefully he will work things out for himself

I am here for you always-
Get support from family/friends to help with care of kids
what are their ages?


married 14 years
H 42
bomb 2/07 IDLYA
D final 3 /09
M ow D ow