I would take a few steps back Just get centered through breath or yoga or listen to Joel Olsteen (if you are ok with that) or find a positive speaker( free online) to help center you
Get peaceful Breathe
Remember it does not matter who she is, what he is doing, where he is going
Right now you have to take care of you
So I suggest just let go---
Alanon has phone meetings everyday all day long and coda Find Numbers and times online
These programs are similar to DB as they encourage Self Care These 12 step programs can bring you relief support and a phone call away and free-
Get centered first..them you will know what to do-
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow