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Ok thank you. I will read that thread when I get home R2C

read every post I have quoted There are 8 threads. Take notes.
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2846984#Post2846984
Try to wrap your brain around new ways to interact.

So the consensus is I should not go to wedding. Go out and GAL instead

YES. Want a tattoo? Go get one. Need a haircut, Go get one. Want a new style, go shopping. You don't have to buy anything. Find some local music. Go listen. Personally I recommend not drinking alcohol during this process. Go to a bar and drink water. People watch. Watch how two women talk. One is talking and the other is listen and sometimes validating. Watch the sunset. Watch the sunrise. Walk in the rain. Be safe and do not walk in a thunderstorm

If she’s having affair then so be it? Recon or no recon?

Do nothing right now. Be observant.

How do I detach without just not caring. I’ve read the thread again and again. I just can’t get it.

Might have to not care for a while.

How do I let myself be ok with her laying down on her back and letting another man get on top of her

Do not let your imagination control you. wait for the truth. Keep working on you in the mean time.

How. How do I let go. HOW do I do that and still love her HOW do I do that and feel nothing but hate HOW!!!

Control your thoughts. Do not let your thoughts control you.