...... I believe he will move out then suddenly announce he has met this ow. I would like to find out before so that he is held accountable. However, I would still want to reconcile so would I be pushing him further towards her by confronting him?

I don't want to be seen as a doormat. At the minute he wants out and that's it. I could make the whole thing worse. I would also like her to know that he has lied about me if that's the case. It's a tough call.

Do I carry on with me, not try and fins out all the info and see if it comes to a natural end?