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[Traveler]

Hi Ozman,

If and when I find out. How do you react.

I was worried about that. You say you want to snoop because if it's a PA it's over. In that case I'd say nothing. Over means done. No point to confront or for further dialogue. Then I'd focus on me, my kids, and cordial logistics with her like co-parenting. I see confused thinking. Why do you want to know?

We have no body to babysit except her family How do I tell them I need a sitter without saying wife went to wedding without me?

WE have nobody to babysit? How do YOU tell her family? Why are you trying to help solve her problem, when the problem is how to go to a wedding with an easy-talking co-worker without you?!