When you have a choice to make, take time to evaluate all the options. The pro's the con's. Decide what makes sense to you and make a decision. Live with the consequence of that decision. Rinse and repeat.
If you always go left, change it up and go right for a while. Then work on going straight for a while. Learn to change direction as needed without going fully left or right as the sitch changes.
Do this in all areas of your life. Sometimes I need to shut up and just listen and validate. Other times, I need to ask the other person to not talk and just listen to me. Most of the time it is someplace in the middle.
There are 1000 shades of gray between black and while. Don't always be black or white, but learn to be both and several shades of grey.
You can go to the wedding. You can go play darts. And there are hundreds of options in between such as hire a PI to figure out details or have a friend gather some intel.
