I’m confused, is it our place or my place because she referred to it as both in back-to-back texts? W speaks in this manner quite often where she speaks in “we” and “our” about our marital property and plans, then sometimes catches herself and quickly corrects by saying “your”. I feel she talks in this joint fashion mostly out of habit and not that she envisions a future together. I also believe that she does it occasionally to gaslight me and keep me as a backup plan.
You are really dwelling on her choice of pronouns?!? We, our, yours, mine. Who cares?? They are meaningless. You are confused because you are trying to tell the future based on things that have no meaning! When I talk about my favorite sports team sometimes I say "We are going to win!" Sometimes I say "They are going to win." Does that mean I have a future with the sports team? Does it mean I am affiliated with the sports team? NO! They are words. That's it. I feel like you hang on her every word looking for hope and meaning. Have you so soon forgotten "Believe nothing she says?"
Originally Posted by curtis7
D4 would get a kick out of riding the unicorn horse with her friends, but I don’t know that I want to play and fake happy family around the guests. Also, I really don’t want divorced BFF at my house. Thoughts? Do I bite the bullet so D4 has a great day or put my foot down and say no?
I think you answered your own question: " I really don’t want divorced BFF at my house" That's your answer.
"I've considered the proposal, but feel it is best to continue with the party as we originally planned it."
When she protests, gets mad, pleads, you listen and validate. But stand your ground.
As far as this "but I don’t know that I want to play and fake happy family around the guests". Wrong attitude. Forget the guests. You need to play happy family for D4!!
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
