Persistent Endurance (Part 4)

[curtis7]

So, D4’s birthday is coming up in a couple weeks and she wanted to have a unicorn themed party at a local park. So, earlier this week I rented the pavilion and W ordered a cake and decorations. I’m okay with hosting the party with W as it’s for D4 and I want her to be happy for the occasion with both parents present.

However, last night W came up with a new idea. She texted suggesting maybe we should cancel the party at the park and move it to “our place” so she could dress up her horse like a unicorn and bring it out all dressed up for the kids to ride. Then she texted I just don’t know how you feel about having the party at “your place”. W also suggested possibly bringing a few select kids over after the park party to surprise them with the unicorn and rides.

I’m confused, is it our place or my place because she referred to it as both in back-to-back texts? W speaks in this manner quite often where she speaks in “we” and “our” about our marital property and plans, then sometimes catches herself and quickly corrects by saying “your”. I feel she talks in this joint fashion mostly out of habit and not that she envisions a future together. I also believe that she does it occasionally to gaslight me and keep me as a backup plan.

D4 would get a kick out of riding the unicorn horse with her friends, but I don’t know that I want to play and fake happy family around the guests. Also, I really don’t want divorced BFF at my house. Thoughts? Do I bite the bullet so D4 has a great day or put my foot down and say no?