Well spoken. Yes, they are not boundaries. Just fear of stepping up. And my observation having stepped up is that it works. For now W is in a bit of shock that she isn't getting her way. And ruminating on the consequences.
My plan: GAL. I'm being a bit more scarce at home and plan to ramp it up. Still spend some time with W, but only if she asks AND I have no plans Still silently take care of cleaning house, kids school prep Get an atty to understand my options but not to escalate unless W does Go to gym more Plan potential R topics that might come up and think how to respond like Steve Stand up to shouting at kids by enforcing a boundary with consequences Stand up to interference Slow or no response to SMS Wait for her to initiate action, be it moving out or legal Cook a bit on weekends even though I'm terrible Continue to be positive and happy (I am anyway) Be open that things can go either way
ATM she's in a talkative friendly state. Went with kids to visit a friend's farm for 24 hours. She even is quick to invite me the minute I ask when she's back. But I said I'm doing my own thing.
My mental state is that I have no fear. Of her, or the future.
One question for all is, she constantly comments about being tired of "doing everything". Not true. Was true, years ago, not now. I dont respond usually although sometime I will validate. Thoughts?
