I honestly wasn’t checking up on her. But I was being clingy and needy. I was thinking one day I’ll walk in and she’ll be pleased to see me. Stupid I know. Since then I haven’t asked her where she’s been or about her day. I’ve paid no interest to her phone usage and if she goes to another room I don’t follow or show any interest. I don’t phone, go home during the workday or message unless it’s in response to her.
My biggest question is still about stopping doing things for her. I normally cook for her and the boys. I do my share of tidying the house. I’ll take my turn to load the dishwasher or wash clothes. If I suddenly stop all that, how do I explain it, other than “you want a divorce so I’m not doing it anymore” which will come across as petty and spiteful.
