and if you look at my stats in my signature, I was in the mode you are in for about 6-7 months, thought I was there then would spiral back. Back and forth, losing my mind for months.
Then I did decide that I have two kids, I want to be happy, I'm not doing this anymore. And I tell you I thought I dropped the rope about 10 times along the way....it's not easy.
And that's theTruth dropping the Rope 10 times along the way.
You could be good for days or even weeks or even months just trying to focus on yourself, and then all the sudden out of the blue you have a moment of weakness where you remember the past, and how things were. Then you have to remind yourself to not give in to that weakness and be strong and remember that the person that you are with now is not the person that you remember. it's cold but they don't love you anymore like they used to and I don't think of you the way they used to in that moment of weakness when you think of it. This is what essentially creates the internal struggles within ourselves. That you have to make a hard and concise decision on whether to walk away or not from keeping on dealing with the emotional pain that things aren't the way that they used to be, and any life looks better and more appealing than limbo. But what we secretly and really wish for is a work through these things in our marriage so that we don't lose it lose the person that we truly love. But we still have to put principal before passion if we ever are going to make the wiser choice. I'm willing to bet that a lot of you here if your W came to you immediately today and said hey let's reconcile? After all we put them through and all they put us through, you know that there's going to be some terms and conditions on both parties.
