If you have read my thread at one point I said I'm fine for it to go either way. The realisation of what exactly divorce looks like is pretty good. I get to buy a new apartment or keep the house. I get kids less than half the week and can discipline them my way. I get time to myself and get to experiance the thrill of finding someome who respects boundaries, has secure attachment, and mature enough to take criticism and work through conflict.
Having said that, because I've seen what is possible with my W due to positive improvements made (yeah I'm taking credit here), I'm willing to stick it out. My plan now is to be more unavailable (GAL), keep enforcing all major boundaries, and to keep validating. But I'm also engaging an atty just in case.
I believe this is true detachment. At least it feels that way for me.
