Helpme12, thats pretty extreme. I can relate but on a less severe scale. Here are the boundaries I let her get away with:
Pick the house we bought together Control all aspects of raising new born Let her complain that not supporting her with a new born was the worst thing that ever happened to her Let her remind me at least 10x a year that not supporting her with a new born was the worst thing that happened to her Go to free R counselling which was totally ineffective (duh) Go to govt backed R counselling which was ineffective, but lie that I'm a lowly office worker to save $ Let her have sex with OM because I obviously had no sex drive Let her violate the don't ask don't tell boundary on sex with OM because her OM moved overseas and now she wants to put effort back to having sex Sleep in another room off and on for years because "she needs space" Let her pout in front of my mother and call her a snake for nothing other than being around Ask me to lie on taxes and say we're separated in order to get govt benefits Let her shout at kids Let her blame kids for her emotions Let her say within earshot of daughter that she sometimes hates her Almost let her move family out of house, put possessions in storage, and move into in-laws to make $ on Air BnB during XMas Tried to rationalisate a Big D property settlement where she gets the apartment, kids get family house in trust, I get SFA
Going over this list now. Wow. I'm not saying i hate myself. But WTF was I thinking? How little self respect I had. No wonder I am where I am now. God. Makes me a bit angry actually to read this. In any event, it's the past and I didn't kniw any better. For sure this sort of thing isn't happening again!
Yeah,acceptance depends on the boundary for sure. I was thinking just of things like blaming others, or relationship scorecard. Any of your examples or any my list are not acceptable in my books.
