Steve I don’t know what your asking for in what has changed. I guess she is just being more and more blatant with the msging. It doesn’t bother her to do it in front of me any more I don’t think. I don’t know how to get proof. You guys told me not to go searching.
It’s like she wants me to ask who she is msging
I still question whether this is a change, or are you just hurt by her refusing to share the bathroom.
Its like this:
WAW BD's LBH.
LBH goes into super husband mode.....things improve and LBH almost feels like WAW is changing her mind. In meantime, WAW feels since BD that she now is the end phase of ending her marriage, so her behavior becomes more brazen. She texts other men, goes out and parties, she rendezvous' with OM, whatever the behavior is (this hypothetical, not necessarily your exact sitch), because in her mind the marriage is already over. (Many of us have heard those exact words from our WAW.)
LBH sees better behavior from his WAW has improved, gets more embolden, pursues and gets slapped down.
Suddenly LBH thinks everything is terrible (because he is hurt) and starts to nitpick things he was letting go before the slap down. NOTHING has changed, except LBH's perception of his standing with WAW.
Originally Posted by ozman
I just looked back through our old texts. There is no way she was faking all the stuff she was sending me. Lots of hearts and stuff. Although it seems like the last few months that there were more of those than normal. Like it was her last ditch effort ir something.
What’s sad. I didn’t reply to a lot of those nice msgs. I was too busy with whatever at the time
I hate this. I can’t believe it. I just want to rewind the clock
STOP You are spinning. Take deep breaths. Take a step back. The not sharing the bathroom with you yesterday IS NOT THE END OF THE WORLD. As R2C pointed out your mistake wasn't even asking to share the bathroom. It was agreeing to swim with her TO BEGIN WITH!
This is all a result of ozman being too available, and not going out and getting his own life. You are several threads in and still not getting a lot of this. Drop the rope. Let her go. Go get a life and leave her to figure out her own crap.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
