Hey Oz....I've been here too. It is very hard to "blow it up" with only 95% proof. Better be 100% sure before confronting otherwise you look paranoid, controlling etc.

She needs to know that you know...with proof....only at that point can she realize that this is a crossroads for your M.

H-50
W-48
T-19
M -18
S23, S14
BD - 5/9/2018
OM discovered 5/10/2018

In house sep - 8/18/2018
Rope drop 2/15/2019
R'ing since 3/15/2019