I'm trying to determine if I'm being pushed around or overly sensitive.
The house is officially on the market. I believe it to be WAY over priced (like...$40K over priced) and my first instinct is that W and her realtor are insane for the asking price. However, I won't be upset if it really does fetch that amount of money as we are splitting the equity. A high sale would be good for me. But I think they're bonkers for the price. I don't know if I want to be right or wrong!
The realtor is a former mutual friend. I don't like feeling rude or ungenerous, but I'm finding him to be a bit of a joke in all this. Not an unkind man, but not who I would work with to sell the house. W told me he would come by to pick up a large pile of trimmed brush that is in the front of the house by the curb. Left me a note that the realtor/friend would be by Monday to dispose of it. I don't know if the friend has flaked out or if W never had clear communication - but it's still sitting there and is unsightly and an embarrassment. I could have taken it to the compost center had I known he wasn't going to do it. Not my job, but I also don't like the fact that the neighbors have had to look at it since Saturday.
Realtor just wrote to me asking for a key to the house so a lock box could be put on for showings. UMMMM hey W, maybe you should have taken care of that and given your key? He asked that I leave it for tomorrow morning, and I only have my own key. I can certainly get him another key - my family has spare - but it won't be until tomorrow evening.
I just don't like that their poor planning makes me need to rush around and potentially give my own key to the house. Sure, I need to collect the keys from family anyway - but perhaps more than 24 hours notice would have been helpful.
When realtor came to take photos of the house he was over an hour late, so it dug into my day.
So these little things just are a nuisance and if I was the person who hired him I'd speak up and say so. But I'm not. BUT I live here, and have a right to some proper notice on things.
At the same time, I'm very aware of the fact that W and I still do not have any legal document outlining that I will get half the equity in the house. So I feel I must play nice. I really don't think she'd back out or try to play "hard ball". I really don't think so. But I also really don't know, and it sounds so crude but I want that money. If she is going to leave me I need it to set up my life because much of our financial planning was done together over the past 10 years. I significantly contributed to our lifestyle, and the fact that my savings is minimal is based on financial decisions we made as a couple. So yeah - despite not "legally" being entitled to it I want that equity.
I also don't have my apartment lined up for September or October and I'm starting to stress. But it only takes 1 successful viewing to snag a good place, so I need to keep at it.
I just need to push through. Get to my next step, which is my own apartment, and get moved in. Once that happens I can breath easy knowing my space is my own once more.
