Jb - What helped me accept "Believe none of what they say and half of what they do" is trying to come up with the opposite conclusion from what I hoped was the truth.
Some of the below responses sound tongue-in-cheek and obviously they could be completely false, but my point is valid - I can come up with an explanation that is different from yours.
Originally Posted by Jb2019
She still uses my debit card some
Cake-eating (money)
Originally Posted by Jb2019
she hasn’t been saving money even though she would have to so she could afford a divorce
Denial of financial reality
Originally Posted by Jb2019
over the past few days she’s been asking if i want to go with her to see a movie with one of her friends, or out to eat with one of her friends
Friend zone, let him down easy
Originally Posted by Jb2019
told me where she was going and who with when i didn’t ask anything about it
Diversion - throw him off the scent
Originally Posted by Jb2019
bought me something i would like for my birthday
Friend zone, let him down easy
Originally Posted by Jb2019
trying to get me to talk to her family more (not about anything going on between us, just general conversations)
Friend zone
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still has us as married on facebook
Technically true, don't want to deal with changing status then having to explain to everyone in her life what is going on
Originally Posted by Jb2019
is giving me until the end of the month to move out when she could just tell me to leave now
Friend zone, let him down easy
Originally Posted by Jb2019
was looking for her ring
Pawn shop?
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has been depending on me to make sure she gets up on time (her job is depending on it, if she’s late one more time she’s fired)
Cake-eating
Originally Posted by Jb2019
instead of going ahead with the divorce process she’s been putting it off and spending money on shopping and drinks and other things
Denial of financial reality
Originally Posted by Jb2019
She really can’t afford to not have me there financially or cleaning/taking care of the house wise.
Denial of financial reality
Let me give you a crazy example of this. I turned 40 in May. My W had her "college friends" coming to visit and was setting up spare beds. I swore she was going to have her brother come instead, to "protect" her in case I flipped out when she BD'ed me. People thought I was paranoid. Instead... 4 of my close friends surprised me, she had arranged for them to have a weekend bash at my house. It was very thoughtful and a great weekend. Then... a month later, she BD'ed me, and surprised me by having her brother come to the house to "protect" her in case I flipped out.
So... she was nice to me on my birthday. That doesn't mean squat. Your W can still care for you a great deal and still want a D.
