Midlife wife crisis8

[Wolfman]

LH you are so right about her not being a good w. I don’t know why I would want her back when these other women are so good to me. Granted it’s always like that in the beginning. It’s so true what they say you want what you can’t have. Right now I can’t have my w or probably ever again. LH I guess for me the other thing is I had my “fun” in college with women. I guess once I transitioned to husband and father I never thought of having to start over and play the field again. I was at a 4th of July party and another woman was hitting on me and asked me for my number. Again, that’s nice and all and makes me feel good but it’s not what I want. I guess I have to get out of the more of marriage and back into single mode. Obviously on here you guys can sense how down I am but when I am not here that is not at all what I show. I workout 5 days a week now, play on a baseball team, dress nice wear nice cologne, fun and happy. Actually I’m kinda shocked my w is not physically attracted to me. If she is, man she is good at hiding it.

Steve thank you for the encouragement, it really makes a difference.

Helpme other than literally taking my w out to dinner every night and kissing her all the time there is not much else I could have done. My IC said to me my w never matured and still wants to live like a 21 year old. That it’s not me but her who needs to mature and grow up. That is great and all I told my IC but this still hurts.

R2C I love Joan you are good at saying we need to express those emotions. Obviously when we are alone. I always feel better after a good cry. I have cried more this past year than my 41 years of life. I just keep telling myself things will eventually get better. I am just running out of patience. Thank you everyone for talking to me it always feels good seeing all of your responses!!!! Hugs to all!!!