That sounded like a horrible experience. It is over. It exists only in memory now. You survived it. And will be stronger for it; I’ve seen you stand and rise from the dark before, and you will here as well.
Did I read this correctly? Full custody. $500.00/month child support. Settled and agreed too? Wow! That is awesome. This was one of the biggest items you wanted.
Divorce is just about kids and money. Once kids are figured out, it is just dollars and cents after that. Even here in rural small town where the streets roll up at 6:00pm, it is that way. Your lawyers and legal system sounds the same. H and his lawyer however do sound to lean to the chasing of ambulances.
In my case anything and everything, outside of financial dealings, W did and was doing (affair, abandonment, etc...) had no bearing on the negotiations. It is just splitting up the assets, fairly according to the law or whatever the two parties can agree too. It really is just a business deal gone bad, as much as it really isn’t - weird how that actually makes sense.
With, I am hoping, your child custody resolved the remainder is more straight foreword. Finances leave a good trail and can be divided in two, rather quickly and with a lot less mess. Math. It is emotionless, so the courts appear as well.
Your diminishing desire to stand is understandable. Do not worry about it for now, let that be, you’ve got enough on your plate. Focus on you and your kids, and once the dust settles you will see clearer.
With much support.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
