Forgot to mention EA. She wanted to travel by herself post BD. I said yes and foolishly took time off to take care of kids. I wish I set that boundary but I didn't know you all here then. Anyway.
She came back and I was still hoping we could reconcile. In one of her angry monologues she said she didn't love me amd she was in love with someone she met overseas. I knew something was up because since she got home it was always after dinner she'd retreat to her bedroom. I actually said that is pretty normal and when in a stressful relationship, we naturally can look elsewhere. I even stated I was contemplating looking up an old friend with benefits. She didn't expect that reply. Her monologue continued in that she was feeling pressure with our R and pressure from OM for her to visit him. W is a smart girl but sometimes her fantasies are just dumb. Move overseas? Leave kids? WTF? How could this possibly work? A few days later the retreat to the bedroom stopped. It's possible it's still going on and it's possible she is just more discreet. Based on current state of mind, my gut says no. But who knows.
At the end of this outburst she said she loved me and we cried together.
