Midlife wife crisis8

[MrBrside]

There was no pleasing this woman. She looked for perfection in this m and since that doesn’t exist it was doomed from day one. Love is blind and boy was I blind. I think most women would have loved to have me as a husband. Hard working, loving, dedicated, truthful, great dad, and yet all of that didn’t add up for her. Yet she would find the few things I did wrong focus on that and make me out to be this horrible person.

This is just the norm to some people. You can't let it get you down. My ex was just the same. My boss is the same. You can bust a gut and he won't say thanks for the 10 things that you excelled in, he will flag up the one niggly thing that you didnt do. A lot of LBS on here seem to be hardworking, loving, totally dedicatedm honest, loyal, good dads etc.... But these things arent enough for some people...

Something I want to share which I thought was so interesting. We had a family therapy session with my d therapist. There was one thing she said to my d that so applied to my w. The therapist said to my d there are 3 kinds of intelligence: 1 academic 2 logical 3 emotional. She said to my d that she is doing things in her life based on emotions not on logic. That if she really thought about certain situations logically she would make better decisions that make her decisions based on emotion. And she said a lot of people make made decisions when they are based solely on emotion because in that moment you may feel mad, sad, depressed. I wanted to say to my w do you see how you are handling our m?? You are making decisions based on emotion instead of logic. Because logically to break up a family over some minor things that happened a while ago it doesn’t make any logical sense. It as we all know they act based on emotion. It just saddens me that my w behavior is based on emotion not logic.

Not heard it before, but its very true... Like i mentioned in my thread, 99% of decissions my ex made were made on emotion - our arguments stemmed from my logical ( and sometimes academic ) response, usually trying to make her realise the idea was insane / silly. Logic is no match for their emotions.. My ex never listened to my logic when we were an item, and would stay moody with me until i found a solution to her "want"... So i realised kind of quickly once i found this board that there was no way back once she went WW.. You sound like you are in a similar situation...

You cant beat her emotion with rational or logic.. Alls you can do is get away from the negativity it brings...

I think most women would have loved to have me as a husband

GAL - excerise, dress well, keep working hard, be a great day, recover, heal ..MORE GAL etc... then if and when you are ready to move on you may meet a better lady.. This time you will be experienced and know which flags to watch for..