Originally Posted by curtis7


I am completely over this. She has had a year since the first EA started, 8 months since the first PA that I could confirm, has been involved with at least a half dozen OM. I’m done. I’ve pushed aside my morals and values for far too long. She’s had ample opportunity to end this behavior. It is now a dealbreaker for me. She can go be happy with OM and divorced BFF, I want something better and more honest and moral for myself and my kids.

Time to work on the final confrontation speech and get D paperwork prepared. Moving forward...



Curtis,

You have spent a lot of time and effort in summarizing all this... After everything she has done / her general attitude, do you honestly believe that a speech based on all these other statements will make a difference ?

You say above that you are "done"... But the fact you have spent so much time planning this "speech" in my eyes makes it look like you are very much still attached and are hoping that your one last attempt at "reason" will shake her from this fantasy or turn her thinking.. Your speech will be based on rational and logic... She is working on emotion. My personal take on this is that if you were detached, you would be spending time with the kids / GAL rather than spending time on the analysis above..

Any speech will just result in her cake eating further.. She may cry and let you what you want to hear, but if she wanted you back, she would come back to you... She is still cake eating and enjoying her new life, even if it isnt what she expected.

Again, this speech you are planning looks like a pursuit to me...

You need tough love with the ex... and on here people also need to be tough with the fellow LBS...

So applogies if this post comes across as harsh...

but

As the saying goes - "Actions speek louder than words"

or as Elvis would say

"A little less conversation, a little more action please"

Get rid of the horse !!!! and either file or at least bag any remaining clothes / items up and get her out of your daily life.. Focus on you and the kids and keep the contact about the kids.. You can do this....

Previous username - Helpme123.. A name chosen at a desperate time..

Now Mr Brightside.. coming out of my cage, and doing just fine.