I absolutely know that i can't make that choice for her. If I could, I would not be in this place. I agree with a lot of what you said, but I think that most people who are "standing" believe the exact same thing I believe. If not, why stand?
D - I also admire your reasons for standing. I worry that you are letting judgment seep into your viewpoint of your W, which may make things worse for you. If she feels judged it will only drive her away further.
I agree with U. Standing is admirable - but try to find ways to remove expectations from your interactions with W.
This is a hard lesson to learn, there is no quick way to do this. It takes time.
That is not to mean you have to quit believing in what you believe. By all means, do so. But your W has a different perspective than you do right now.
