Yup same sitch as me. I think Sandi discussed this on a post way back. WAW is selfish. So she eats her cake. My W cares about what people think (myself included, she worries I'll hate her post D). She wants both freedom and comfort from H. Best of both worlds.
In my case she needs me to co-parent. She wears wedding ring at work, worried what they might think. She needs someone to vent to when her gay friend isn't available. I'm her comfort blanket when needed because Mr. Nice guy is always there. The great thing about being in the friend zone I guess. Not any more actually, poor W, I can imagine the pain and anger she feels.
Today I hope my W realised there will be messed up times with theckids and I'm not available. That I'm not there to share a laugh or to hear her complaints. And I know she can't stand not knowing where I go. I worry I only feed her anxiety further. But I'm no longer her H, not my role any more.
