You are all correct. I’ve made myself too available to her. I’ve slid right inline as her friend and co-parent that enables her A’s, validates her poor choices, and provides emotional support when she wants it. This clouded my ability to see what was really going on. I now accept reality for what it is. I am not Plan B, C, D, E or even F for that matter. She has a half dozen guys that she is juggling right now. I think of the Stockdale Paradox, unwavering faith that I will prevail, with or without her, but be brutally honest about the reality of the situation.
I plan to remove myself from the equation. I don’t want to be her friend. No true friend lies, cheats, disrespects, and gaslights you at every turn. I don’t want her around me. The horse needs to go. She can contact me if there is an emergency with the kids.
Me:41 W:39 S:9 D:6 T:20 M:16 PA:8/22/18, BD:11/6/18 PA discovery & IHS:12/3/18, W moves:4/2/19 R’ville:9/27/19, I give D docs:3/1/20 W home:4/5/20 (due to CV-19), W NC w/OM:4/13/20 6/1/20
