Hey Destroyd, yes although it isn’t like this for everyone, I have been able to detach far more since the separation. It’s much easier not to think about someone when you don’t see them everyday. And yes with split custody I have far more free time for GAL. I only have 1 S though so I can imagine 3 children requires much more work. Maybe compromise with your W and say, I am going out tonight, I can watch the kids tomorrow if you want to get out of the house.
Hey thanks AS, I’ve read some of your more recent sitch and you are definitely in a better place. I have had the opportunity to partake in far more activities and have made so many more friends since seperation, so I have seen many positives out of my sitch. I am hopeful for my own future, just not as hopeful for my future with W. And that is okay.
Short update: Had great weekend with S. Went to the beach with my best friend, sons godfather. When dropping S off with W, I arrived early and W was not home yet. Her mom was however and invited me in. We had a pleasant talk for a few. She told me I could hang out until W got home but I told her I had somethings to do and was gonna run.
Few hours later W texted me. Asking about my weekend with S. Replied but briefly. She sent me some heart emojis but I know that doesn’t mean shyt. She asked me to bring her some food next time I drop son off. Didn’t reply. She then texted again a few hours later after I didn’t reply. I know I’ve said I need to decrease our interactions but we texted a few paragraphs back and forth, the most in a long time. I have no expectations from this but thought I should document.
