The rational part of my brain tells me that, it isn't about me. But H is hurt too and I think the right thing is to give up the tickes and go, but I guess I don't want the wrath of H on me, because I forced him to give up the tickets. I really don't know what I can do to have him understand this or willingly make the decision. We talked a bit this morning on the phone and I did validate his feelings, that I understood all his pain, but that it seems really important to BIL that H is there. So H wasn't really angry at me, he did say thank you for understanding how he was feeling and them someone walked in his office and we ended the conversation. I don't know to call him back and pursue this to preserve family peace, as it does impact the kids, or let H cause a rift that will take awhile to heal (and he can hold a gruge like no man, so possibly BIL has those same traits!)
