Thanks sotorn and anotherstander. That makes sense. I’m REALLY struggling with the detachment. I understand the theory. When she’s not around, I can give myself all sorts of mental pep talks. But when I’m around her I just can’t see it through. Where the hell do you get that mental toughness from? I just feel so lonely, I really regret not jumping at the chance to try again when she offered it. I just wish I knew what was going on in her head- we get on now better than we have done in such a long time, it doesn’t make sense!
