Quote: I'm tempted to email BIL and let him know that I would like s7 to be there, even if he would prefer that I'm not there, I'm not sure if he is objecting to my presense or H's lack of presence
Assume he's upset about H NOT coming, not about you coming. Don't get sucked into any personal conflicts with the in-laws - you don't have to love them, just have to be polite, remember??
Yes, probably the best solution would be to give up the game tickets and go to the birthday party. Not that it's FAIR - people should really check with you first if they are going to be bent out of shape over a party missed - but people do get kind of silly about first birthday parties.
Bear in mind, too, that it might be SIL and not BIL who's stirring the pot - guys don't usually get so bent out of shape about these things, so unless BIL usually has issues with his brother, it might be that his wife is giving him hell.
So I suggest that H suck it up, give up the tickets, and go. There'll be other games. This is not about you, Jackie.
