That is why I asked you guys. Thank you!! I needed the 2x4s to keep me from making a mistake.
Steve, I am confused by your statements. Walking away is the absolute last thing I want to do. I am hoping that my WAW eventually notices my changes and decides to recommit to the marriage. I don't want to separate or proceed with divorce. I love my wife and family so much.
Destroyd, you asked how to get out of the friend zone. I told you that you have the choice of the status quo (IE remaining in the friend zone if she has indeed FZ'd you), or if you can't handle being in the friend zone...walking away.
In other words, whether or she friend zones you is not UP TO YOU. It is up to her. Your only choice to get out of the FZ is to walk. This is difficult for LBSs to understand. By nature of BD, after BD you are friend zoned. You don't get to decide, that is up to her, it is out of your control.
Eventually she may be reattracted to you if you COMMAND RESPECT. Or she may never will be and you are looking at the FZ for the rest of your life.
The only thing you get to control is how long you put up with the FZ. Lots of LBSs eventually get sick of it and walk.
Also, listen to LH. The fact that you will never walk is working against you. One of the best things I did in my sitch is to consult with a divorce attorney. When my W found out the fact that I could move the D for her got real!
Steve, I 100% agree that getting out of the friend zone is 100% up to her. But I am doing my 180s, and I certainly hope that they make her think twice about leaving me. When I look at your sitch threads, it seems like you and your W were in a similar place to me. However, you wife seemed to give lip service to wanting the marriage to last more than mine is. My W says she is working to fix our relationship, but I don't trust that she actually is. I think she is struggling because she knows I am a good man and a good father, but she is fighting a deep need for independence and freedom to find herself. I hope that she knows that she can find herself and happiness with me.
