Heartbroken and Struggling - Part 3

[hoosjim]

Steve, I am confused by your statements. Walking away is the absolute last thing I want to do. I am hoping that my WAW eventually notices my changes and decides to recommit to the marriage. I don't want to separate or proceed with divorce. I love my wife and family so much.

Doesn't seem to make sense does it? Goes against everything your logical male mind is telling you to do. But it is absolutely true.

And don't overanalyze my sitch (if you look at it all) as some sort of validation that "hanging on" or "sticking it out" is the best path to reconcilliation. My sitch and my WW, as everyone's, had unique elements/dynamics but, in the end, the bottom line is that things didn't make a hard 180 turn for the better until 1) I was completely strong, confident, independent, and committed to MYSELF and 2) I walked and she knew i was serious about it. And you will see that pattern play out over, and over, and over, and over again on these pages.

I haven't looked at your threads in depth as i've been absent for awhile and was just bored and doing a drive-by, but if I get a sec I'll check them out. Been thinking i need to try to do a bit more "paying it forward."

At any rate, listen to what the folks on here are saying-- most have been around the block a time or two-- but at the same time don't be afraid to challenge/question (respectfully, of course) and keep an open mind on SPECIFICS... but always keep in mind that the GENERAL pattern with WWs is the same in EVERY SINGLE CASE. It's like they have secret weekly meetings and blogs that none of the rest of us know about where they distribute the "standard script"... either that or like they are all subsumed/taken over by the same alien pod collective...