Ok so first off your marriage won’t last because your W has filed
I thought that was the whole point of DBing? She said she wanted to try again about a month ago- why is it impossible? I appreciate its highly likely to end in D now but surely the whole point of Michelle’s books is there is still a chance?
The whole point of DBing is to focus on yourself. To make yourself a better person. You being a better person will impact your children positively.
DBing is essentially working on yourself. Being the best version of yourself, realizing that you will most likely end up single.
DBing properly will get you to a point where you are emotionally detached from your WAS. The improvements in yourself and the distance created may give your spouse a different perspective where they may decide to pursue you and show you that the M is important.
You need to accept that your M is over. Get to a point where you are happy with yourself and only focusing on you and the kids.
There is nothing you can do to save your marriage besides letting go.
M:16 T:21 H(me) 38 WW: 38 S11 D16 D19 Red Flags of A: March 2018 ILYBNILWY: August 4, 2018 Moved out of MBR: September 24, 2018 BD/Confirmation of A: October 31, 2018 D Filed: March 27, 2019
