People reveal themselves over time G....maybe this is how he was in his marriage as well. What would his XW complaints about him be? Do you know? Has he told you how he contributed to the failure of it? I was very honest with the Dr. about my short-comings.
If this is who he is and he is showing his true colors and you believe he is in-love with you but he is not capable of giving you what you need then you are going to have to make some choices if this R is for you.
In my opinion, based on what you write, to me he seems high maintenance. That everything has to be just perfect and his way. Sorry if I am off base and I don't mean to offend and if I am off you can certainly tell me.
