Adam, I think your reaction to her disclosure of the lie was appropriate. And I think you are right to be cautious, because like Joe pointed out usually when a WAS gets caught in a lie they will tell half-truths to "make peace" while keeping even more lies deeply buried. Your number 1 problem is going to be learning to trust her again, and she has to EARN that trust from you, not just expect it to happen. I think we talked about Retrouvaille before, I can't remember if you said you were considering it or not but it gives you some really great communication skills. It will help both of you to open up in ways you never thought possible, it could be just what you both need.
