Not feeling very hopeful these days. I know my sitch hasn’t been more than 4 months since BD but I’m definitely feeling less hopeful than a few months ago.
We all come here solely focused on saving our M's, but as you continue down the road at some point your hope shifts from your M to just a better life. You have a hundred reasons to have hope for a better life, and only one of them is a saved M. Maybe it will happen and maybe it won't, but you should have 99 other things you're focused on too.
I offer my sitch up now and then as a reason to have hope, and I'm really not trying to boast but to just let you and others know a great life is waiting for you. I divorced, I dated some really sexy, beautiful women and settled on a long-term relationship with one of them. We've been together 4 years now. She is young, beautiful, has a centerfold figure and we are very committed to each other. She's made me realize how stifling and boring my marriage was, I made so many compromises that I never should have had to make. It's ironic that I worked so hard to save a M to someone I wasn't really that compatible with. She's wild and full of spirit and has re-energized my life. And the sex is absolutely incredible and without limits. Of course we have ups and downs like any relationship but my point is if your marriage doesn't make it, there are plenty of opportunities out there just waiting for you.
After BD when I started to realize my M was well and truly dead, I figured I was just counting the days until death. I had no idea a whole new exciting, invigorating life was waiting for me. On the show Vikings, Rolo lost his wife and his position in the tribe and was despondent, he went to the Seer and asked if that was it, his life was over. The Seer started laughing and said "Oh Rolo, if you knew what the gods have in store for you, you would go down and dance naked on the beach!" If your M doesn't make it, you can make WHATEVER YOU WANT of your life.
